By Elyse Rozina

2039 Paris woman on Bike 500x641Punctuality

Here, in Paris, everything is measured in metro stops and monuments. “I live at Anvers, just south of Sacre Coeur.”

“Be there soon, I’m three stops away!” (even if you are actually five); Tardiness is expected here – t’inquiete pas (don’t worry). In fact, if you are going to someone’s home you better be at least 15 minutes late – it’s common courtesy. This fact was kindly pointed out to my friend and I when we were invited to brunch chez un ami Parisian (at the home of a French friend). He explicitly told us Americans in the invitation that although brunch technically started at 10:30 a.m., this was Sunday morning and he would not be ready for us until at least 10:45 or 11. The French attending this event didn’t need this clarification; they instinctually know these things and probably wouldn’t be ready themselves until 11:15.

This is a harder adjustment for some than others. One of my American friends, very low maintenance and always punctual, got so fed up with waiting for everyone everywhere we went that after just a few weeks in Paris she learned to leave her apartment at least a half an hour later than planned. And even then, she was never the last to arrive.

Public Displays of Affection

“PDA” (pubic displays of affection) is a way of life. A French friend asked me once why people call Paris the “City of Love.” I believe the massive amount of PDA you are bound to walk past in the street (or worse, get caught next to in the metro) is the true reason – not because Paris’s beauty makes it infinitely more romantic as a city. There is no age limit on those partaking in this habit of a passionate embrace in the street. You are just as likely to catch two retirees mid-smooch as you are to bump into a couple of giddy teenagers.

Neckwear and its purposes

Scarves are practically an extension of the human form for both genders – partially, I’ve found, so you can block out the smell of urine in the metro corridors, made all the worse on the many rainy days when the dampness creeps into the tunnels and magnifies the stench. Luckily, Paris is beautiful in the rain. So wrap that scarf a little tighter to block out the cold, grab your umbrella and stroll through the streets, checking out the various colors, patterns, and materials others have chosen for this key piece of their outfits. Pay special attention to the men; les Parisians really know how to embrace their neckwear with style. But remember, scarves for men are only for the colder months. Even in Paris, only us women can get away with scarves after the temperature has risen.

Coffee, cafes, and other dining details

Coffee is always espresso – unless it’s “pour over” (a sort of filtered coffee made with an hourglass shaped Chemex contraption) or Aeropress (a very serious process that involves scales and intense concentration to achieve the perfect flavor profile) in a hipster café full of 20- and early 30-somethings in their Stan Smiths. Like the scarf, sneakers are serious business here, worn equally as often with dresses and business attire as they are with jeans and a simple T-shirt. In cafés like these, you come to admire the style of the customers as much as you come to get your caffeine fix.

Milk here is never, ever skim. The closest you’re going to get is demi écrémé, which is more akin to 2% and not nearly as delicious as the whole milk that makes up your cappuccino. You eat your salad after your dinner and your water glass doesn’t contain more than three gulps. Parisians are somehow able to make it through their meal without drinking much of anything, unless it’s red wine of course. This is especially difficult to get used to and you will drive your French waiter crazy when he has to switch out your carafe d’eau (the pitcher of water you can ask for, free of charge) multiple times throughout the evening – if he even bothers, that is.

The art of film

Movie theaters here in Paris used to be real theaters, and preserve their plush velvet seats, stages, and mezzanines without a cup holder in sight. Popcorn is offered, but in my experience it is very rarely consumed and doesn’t have that delicious butter flavoring we are accustomed to in the U.S. A night at the cinema is a weekly (or bi-weekly) activity for many. Serious moviegoers get a subscription card that allows them to see as many movies as they like for a set monthly price. Everyone is always ready to share their opinion on the new film and how this director or that screen writer’s film compared to his last. They know the names of the directors and writers because in France, the lights don’t come on until after the credits have rolled and you are expected to stay seated until you have read them.

French children

Children age nine read books like “Le journal d’Edward, hamster nihiliste” (Diary of Edward, the nihilistic hamster) because you have to ingrain the cynicism early. Children here just seem so much more mature than their American counterparts. During my stint as a part time nanny, I was repeatedly surprised by the activities of both daughters. The nine-year-old played me songs from the film Pulp Fiction on her guitar and asked for a trip to London for Christmas. The twelve year old memorized and acted out scenes from Moliere and spent many an afternoon experimenting with photography. Every Sunday the whole family went to their favorite sushi place to devour spicy tuna rolls and sashimi. I don’t personally know any American children under the age of 16 who would even touch a piece of raw fish.

Street sightings

The contents of flower shops spill onto the sidewalks, a burst of color in the grayscale streets, tempting you to pick up a bouquet of peonies or a little succulent even if you can’t be trusted to keep them alive. With a flower shop on every corner, it’s no wonder Parisians dress up their white walled apartments with colorful bouquets.

While these flower shops offer a treat for your eyes, the many boulangeries offer a treat for your nose. That is, until, just for a moment, the smell of freshly baked bread combines with the expired, sour smell of that overflowing trash can and confuses your senses to no end. Thank goodness for those street cleaners who pick up the many beer and wine bottles that didn’t quite make it into their bins over the course of the evening.

Once you need a break from walking, find a spot to enjoy the sights from the comfort of an outdoor terrace. It is perfectly natural to spend hours at a café on Sunday, staring at people under the pretense of “people watching” and devouring a massive brunch. After all, there is always something interesting to see, whether it’s little children tearing around on their scooters or a man in a fuzzy pirate hat. You’ll never be disappointed by these little differences.

Acknowledgements: Lee Murphy, student of new media communications at the University of Minnesota-Twin Cities and copy editor for A Woman’s Paris.

Elyse Rozina photo 8-24-2015 crop 311x234Elyse Rozina is a graduate of the University of Minnesota-Twin Cities, where she received her B.A. in French studies with minors in Italian and Business Management. In 2014 Elyse was an English Language teaching assistant in Paris. She is currently based in Minneapolis, where she enjoys yoga, photography, and seeking out the newest coffee shops in the area.

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